'Nice guys' should be happy even if they're rejected as boyfriends
- One Twitter user posted a series of cartoons in which nice guys were rejected as romantic partners by women.
- Interestingly, David Slack, the creator of one of the cartoons said men shouldn't feel entitled to be romantic partners even if they are interested in a woman.
- Slack said women have their own mind and are capable of making their own choices and men shouldn't feel offended by this.
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There's a popular feeling among men that the nice guys are always rejected and are doomed to live a single life. Their assumption is that women always fall for the bad guys, the dangerous men who are emotionally unavailable, commitment phobic and in many ways, unstable. In either case, nice or not, women's feelings are hardly taken into account. Instead, the field of romance becomes a match between two kinds of men, those who get rejected and fall into the 'friendzone category' or the guys who are the alpha male, in other words, the jocks.
One Twitter user, perhaps a believer of these stereotypes tweeted about a series of comic heroes who've gotten rejected because they are the nice guys. He said in his tweet, "These dudes were the definition of being in the friendzone." Little did he know that his tweet would get the attention of one of the creators of the comic books.
These dudes were the definition of being in the friend zone pic.twitter.com/jF4XyYbEQd
— Jiraiya (@YahBoyJiraiya) November 15, 2016
David Slack, who created the comic strip, Teen Titans, said his character Beast Boy doesn't consider himself to be in the friendzone even if he is rejected by Terra. Slack said Beast Boy is smart to understand that women have the right to make their own choices and don't turn down a romantic proposal just because the man in question is a nice guy.
They're not games to be won. They have their own minds & hearts, & they don't owe you a relationship just because you're attracted to them.
— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 3, 2017
And if you don't value friendship with a woman, you don't deserve anything beyond that anyway.
— David Slack (@slack2thefuture) July 3, 2017
He went on to say that women don't owe men a relationship just because someone has expressed interest in them. Perhaps the most enlightening was this tweet, "If you don't value a friendship with a woman you don't deserve anything beyond that anyway."
This perfectly summarises what women have been trying to say for a long time and Slack's words are a lesson in love not just for men, but many women who believe that they have to give in to another man's romantic interest.Â
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