Respect and good communication is the key to a healthy relationship, sex life
On account of Valentine's Day Dr. Gayathri Karthik Nagesh, a HOD, a consultant Obstetrics and Gynaecologist, at Manipal Hospitals in Bangalore, shared some insights about healthy sex life, communication between the partners, and much more.
FollowSex life and sexual pleasure is an important part of every couple's life. Not only it defines their relationship but, it's a key part of their personal wellbeing. Healthy sex life has many aspects such as communication, trust, comfort, and much more. Dr Gayatri Karthik Nagesh shared her knowledge about the same.
Q: What is sexual wellness, and how important is it for an individual to be completely aware of it?
A: Sexual awareness is knowing about one's sexuality. It consists of one's physical, social, and emotional behavior. It includes one's sexuality other than the act of sex. Any act of sex or sexuality should not be misinterpreted by your partner. Gender orientation, asexuality to sexuality everything counts in sexual awareness.
Q: How does sexual awareness impact one's life?
A: We do not talk about sex in India openly. We find it difficult to discuss. Schools don't have much sex education, hence children or youngsters talk about it secretly. It's very important to talk about it for physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing. Because if these feelings are suppressed they may have a bad effect. Hence healthy knowledge about sexual practices and sexual health is important.
Q: How important is it to have a healthy establishment of emotional health or mental stability in a relationship?
A: It is important to understand the relationship. Whether to get close, how far a couple want to go, casual, serious, or sexual relationship. A proper conversation with the other one is required. If a person is scared of venturing into any relationship early, then coming to a mutual part is very important. Good communication is a must.
Q: How important is counseling for tackling sex anxiety
A: If a person has an abnormal level of anxiety, then they should meet a counselor. There are a few issues in couples that require proper and professional help.
Q: What things one should keep in mind before commencing their sex life?
A: Good communication is a must. Cleanliness and hygiene practice is a must. One must understand the benefits of safe sex to avoid sexually transmitted diseases and infections. There should be proper communication about whether to have children or not. There's no point in spreading infection, take your medication, use protection, and you can still have sex. Vaccines are also available for preventing cancer, and people must get themselves vaccinated.
Q: People usually fall prey to misinformation or seek Google for health? How important is it to talk to a professional?
A: Google has been a great boon and curse. It's important to spread awareness that doctors are always available for help. Google is just a provider of information and doesn't apply to everyone on a personal level. Even in terms of abortion, there can be different types and complexities that patients are unaware of. Popping a pill may harm their health in the long run. Hence talking to a professional is advisable.
Q: How important is it to understand and respect the NO from a partner?
A: It's absolutely important to respect the partner's consent and a NO. Women and men should have that much control over themselves that on a particular day if a partner says no, it's a no. Forcing sex is a 'no' in any relationship. Respect is the key to a healthy relation and companionship.
Q: Any myths you would like to burst about female losing virginity?
A: Yes, losing one's virginity is a part of commencing a sexual life. People need to understand that there may or may not always be blood loss, as many women lose their virginity while cycling, gyming, or any other activities. Some may feel, and some might not feel pain at all. So having proper awareness is a must.
Q: How can couples get over the anxiety or negativity of feeling sad about their bodies while performing in bed?
A: Everybody is beautiful, and everyone cannot be the same.No five fingers are alike, and not everyone can be similar. Different people have different standards of beauty. People have a beautiful relationship, or sex life without having such issues. Once a person is happy with their body, no one can stop you.
Q: What advice would you like to give to youngsters?
A: Do not rush into any relationship because of peer pressure or something. Find a good partner for yourself and build trust. Use contraception and be happy.
Q: Would you like to throw some light about freezing the eggs or sperms?
A: Yes, any adult woman or a man can freeze their eggs or sperm. Freezing of eggs should be practised by women who plan on delaying childbearing. If they freeze their eggs in their late 20's and plan a pregnancy in the '30s, the health of the baby will be young and good as if it was born in their 20's.
