A good sign of a healthy relationship is where there is mutual trust, love and respect. As much as we all love to have that, there are times when a relationship becomes lopsided and unbalanced. This simply refers to when there is only one person who is much more invested in the relationship, and does all the giving, and receives none in return. This is a toxic and unhealthy situation to be in. You may not realise it at first, but sooner or later, the cracks and resentment will show up.
Here's how you know you're in a one-sided relationship.
You feel alone and lost without your partner: The fact that you need to be around your significant other all the time, and you feel lost without them when they are not around is not a positive sign. Having separate interests, friends and a life outside of your coupledom is what makes a relationship healthy and interesting.
You're the giver of the relationship: Are you the one that is the first to text, call, initiate an activity, all the time? But he or she does not reciprocate, or couldn't care less. You are the one who is always mindful of their likes and dislikes, and even go out of the way to make sure you don't upset them? If you are nodding your head, then, it's time to re-evaluate your relationship.
There's a lack of communication between the both of you: When you honestly try and address a problem, he or she is never interested in what you have to say. Instead, they try and end the conversation through non-verbal cues like sighs and eye-rolls. Or they may just address your concerns as being trivial and your imagination running wild. In short, they don't want to deal with their shortcomings, by projecting it on to you.
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You almost seem grateful when he/she gives you the time of day: This itself should be a major red flag. If your significant other makes you feel like he /she is doing you a favour, and you seem grateful for that fact that they have taken time out of their busy schedule to spend it with you, then you, my friend, are in a one-sided relationship.
Your partner would rather hang out with their circle of friends: You've always heard about his buddies, or her posse of girls, but you've never actually been introduced to them. When you do bring it up, excuses come to the forefront like the infamous "the next time", but that time never comes. However, in the off-chance that you go and hang out with your friends, they give you much grief, and you end up feeling guilty.
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Last Updated 31, Mar 2018, 6:36 PM