Long-distance relationships: Don’t let that love fizzle out by following these simple steps
First Published Dec 7, 2020, 4:23 PM IST
Most long-distance relationships fizzle out because people are either tired of missing the other person, constant fights or a disconnection in their personalities. To be sure, these problems occur when there isn't enough communication in the relationship. But there's a way to overcome this.
Make travel plans: If you're going to enter into a long-distance relationship, then make sure you visit each other once in a while. Some couples make it a point to meet their partner once a month. Physical intimacy is important and try your best to have this.
Understand that it's for a short while: One of the things that make long distance relationships so frustrating is the uncertainty it brings about. That's why it’s important to remember that the physical distance between you two will end and that the silver lining will soon be visible.
Have video calls as often as possible: With Facetime, Skype and WhatsApp video calls, you could easily see each other's face. If you want to change things up a little, then have a video call in one of your favourite locations so that the other person can see it too, albeit on a computer screen.
Don't send too many texts: Rather, make your time together enriching. There will always be a lot to catch up if you give each other enough space.
Do not let your ego interfere: There will come a point when one person feels more like the giver. The important thing to remember is that your effort makes someone else happy. Do not fight over who sends the first text or makes or phone calls or crafts plans to meet in the future.
Be creative: If it’s a special occasion, then make your happiness felt in different ways. Apart from going over there and surprising them, you can send flowers, cakes, buy tickets for a match... the possibilities are endless.
Be vulnerable: No matter how hard you try, none of your friends will understand how difficult a long-distance relationship is. Share your fears, anxiety and pain with your partner because they are in the same emotional boat as you.
Don't be upset if you fight when you meet: Differences in personalities are bound to occur but treat these problems as they occur. There's no point making it into a bigger issue. Also, your visit to your partner's place may not be as you imagined but reality is always a better place to live in.