Have a moody girlfriend? Here are tips how to handle her
First Published 12, Sep 2020, 6:26 PM
Of course, men have many moods too and they too aren't easy to get along with sometimes. But dealing with a particularly moody girlfriend can get out of hands
Truth be told, men sometimes fail to understand how to handle a girlfriend who is rather unpredictable and moody. And if they don't know how to handle these moods, it can very much lead to endless fights and even breakups.
Of course, men have many moods too and they too aren't easy to get along with sometimes. But dealing with a particularly moody girlfriend can get out of hands. So, what's the best way to handle a situation where your girlfriend is acting moody?
Don't take her moods personally: Sometimes, your girlfriend might have really powerful moods that can have a negative effect on you. Particularly in situations when she lashes out at you or blames you for things. Try not to take it personally and talk to her when she's in a better mood or ready to have a conversation. There's nothing wrong with speaking for yourself. Just make sure you don't let this conversation become an attack on her.
Allow her the dignity of having her feelings: It speaks very low of you if you always consider your girlfriend's moods as her being crazy. While you're at it, also allow her the worthiness of being responsible for her own moods. Her moods shouldn't always be your job to "fix it".
Accept that it's not in your control: It is very important to accept the fact that you don't have any control whatsoever over your girlfriend's emotions. In fact, you can't have control over anybody's emotions ever. Some people don't even have a grip on their own emotions, let alone others.
Set boundaries: Now, when we say to set boundaries, it doesn't mean you give her a start and stop button to express her moods. What it means is that you need to be clear with her about what is okay and what is not okay. Assure her that you love her with all her moods, but also let her know that you won't take anything and everything that she throws at you out of her anger and frustration.
Don't let yourself feel dragged down: Just because your girlfriend is feeling a certain way doesn't mean you have to feel it too. Say if she's unhappy about something, it doesn't automatically have to change your mood around too. Try and keep your moods in check. It's easier said than done. But your attitude towards situations and life will give her a way to start dealing with hers in a better way. Try to stay calm and cheerful most times even when she's unhappy. Let your positive mood encourage her to change hers.