Here are 7 lies you tell yourself to get through life
First Published 20, Aug 2020, 4:55 PM
Everyone lives in denial and out of this state emerges a bunch of lies we tell ourselves.
In many cases, we tell ourselves these lies because it makes us hopeful. Most often, people think they can fix a situation, be in control of things and tell themselves there's no time.
Let's admit it. There's some part of us that lives in denial. Living in the realm of not believing in things makes us feel better about ourselves. However, there's a flip side to living in denial.
This state of mind doesn't allow a person to grow, much less accept themselves for who they really are, flaws and all. According to psychologists, there are some common lies people around the world tell themselves so that they can get through the day.
Diet alone will make me thin: That's only because people don't want to make the effort to go to a gym. Being fit and healthy requires a well-rounded approach.
My intuition might be wrong: It most probably isn't. Our body actively responds to events and people. If your gut feeling is that someone is doing you wrong, then try to find out more about it, or dissect it using your rationale.
I can change a person: Most people in toxic relationships believe that their partner will change in the future. However, it’s important to know that a person will change only if he/she is willing to work on it.
I'll save later: You don't have to be a miser but if saving money is what's on your mind, then start early and make it a practice every month. The only way you can live in any unexpected place in the future is by having a back-up.
I don't have time: The problem with this lie is that the person saying it knows it's untrue. There's always time to do things if we want to make room for it. Instead of saying this, understand why you're not able to make time for a certain activity, whether it's going for a run or spending quality time with family.
I don't judge people: All of us judge people's actions, clothes, work etc. However, exercising compassion while you judge can make a whole lot of difference. This will also enable you to exhibit empathy.
I can control any situation: There are some things that are above a person's ability to control. The weather, roads, unexpected changes at work etc are just a few examples. Instead of being a control freak, learn to practice acceptance. This will allow you to be comfortable in situations that are uncomfortable.